It’s Ok To Outgrow (give yourself permission)

It’s ok to outgrow things.

It is part of life and it’s a part of reaching your full potential.

You outgrow pre-school when you turn 5.

You outgrow high school when you turn 18.

You also outgrow many jobs throughout the course of your life.

But as adults, what makes it so difficult to make changes when we know we are destined for something more?

Why do we hold onto jobs, relationships, and so many other comforts in our day-to-day lives?

I think it’s simply that change is hard.

It’s much easier for us to continue doing the things that we are “used to” doing.

But, that’s not where we grow; we grow when we are challenged; we grow when there is some goal that is beyond our reach that we must strive and struggle for.

That’s the only way for us to grow in our lives.

Simply put, we must become a better person than we currently are to achieve those goals we setout to accomplish.

The person you are right now, is NOT the same person that will achieve that goal you are pushing for.

You will have to become an entirely different person to make that goal a reality; You will be forced to change and outgrow the person you currently are.

Every new achievement brings about a completely new you.

There’s a person you had to become to accomplish the goal that you were striving for.

All of that requires outgrowing the old you, and creating a new you.

It’s ok to outgrow people.

Some friends are great during a specific time period of your life, and then all of a sudden, it’s time to move on from those friendships.

You can always cherish friends for who they were at a specific time in your life, and even love them for who they are now, but that doesn’t mean that they must remain an integral part of your life.

Some of them, you simply have to outgrow.

And you have to be ok with that.

Some people you will outgrow naturally, others you might have to make more of conscious effort to move on from.

That’s also ok.

You have a limited amount of time on this earth, and you have to become almost pragmatic in determining whether people are adding value to your life, or not.

If not, that means that have outgrown that relationship and that any further growth for you requires you to move on.

It doesn’t mean you are unkind to anybody, but you make conscious, courageous, and intelligent decisions about who you invest your time in.

Some people deserve your time, energy, and efforts because they provide value to you in return.

Others don’t.

Some people take, and take, and take from a relationship with little or no reciprocity.

Once you recognize this you must have the courage to walk away and not look back.

This can be in your romantic relationships, your friendships, and even your business partnerships.

The decision to walk away can be tough, but we all have a limited amount of time and energy to expend and if our goals truly are important, than we must align ourselves only with people who support and encourage them.

We simply must demand that the people around us are in harmony with the person we are striving to be.

If not, we must be able to gracefully exit (with no remorse).

This is truly one of the greatest acts of self-care and self-love.